Author: Marilyn Barnicke Belleghem M.Ed., is a Registered
Marriage and Family Therapist.
See more at www.mbcinc.ca
Some of our journeys are taken by choice. Some are taken by chance.
Others are ones where the choices other people make change our
course.
I am about to tell you a story that covers several years of my
life and travel to a variety of locations. Travelling is a way
to experience new and interesting places. Travelling can also
present opportunities for personal growth. We can move through
physical space and we can move intellectually, emotionally and
spiritually. How we are on the outside is a mirror of our inner
Self. While looking outward, we can also learn to look inward
and discover our Self.
My purpose in telling you my story is to share what I have learned.
Learning is part of our life journey. I have used notes, journal
entries, correspondence and photographs to create this story.
I have included life skills that I have learned through my experiences
and my professional training. I want to help others recognize
the characteristics in their relationships-both those they have
with others, and their relationship with themselves. We can learn
from our history and make changes to our ways of relating, so
our future is one of choice not chance.
Emotional intensity can distort memories and put greater meaning
into them for the person most affected, while others who were
present may not even recall the specific incident. I know some
facts are lost. Some may appear exaggerated. This is my story.
In order to tell this story, I need to include other people and
my version of the relationships I have had with them. This is
not about their versions of events. It is about my experiences
and my honest interpretations of what happened. It is my truth.
I went to England and Ireland and returned to write Questing
Marilyn. I challenged my conditioning-the beliefs instilled in
me. I learned to think for and about my Self. I came to know myself
at a deeper level. I found my Holy Grail.
In Questing France, I write about the process I have been through
as I worked toward creating an honest loving marital relationship.
I want to intimately share my life with my husband, conquer the
hurdles and challenges of our lives, and create a bond based on
honesty and mutual respect. I seek to have an adult/adult relationship
as the core of my life, where we each strive for personal fulfillment
as loving people. A romantic tour of France, celebrating twenty
five years of marriage, was an important time for working toward
this goal. Hence I have chosen the title Questing France.
Over the years of this story, I also worked to grow with my children
as a responsible parent. I seek a lifelong relationship with them
and to teach by my examples. Even though children grow into adults,
there are many areas where they turn to their parents for guidance,
support and love. Travel provides opportunities to strengthen
parent/child relationships.
I also believe we grow in depth through loving. Being able to
not only find, but also to hold onto my Self, while in committed
intimate relationships with others, demands that I deepen the
search. The Holy Grail that is my Self is richer and more varied
when I share it with love.
Everyone experiences similar events in different ways, depending
on who they are and where they've been. There are common threads
to human experience. While these threads may not weave their way
through your life, I'm sure you will find some experiences that
have woven through the life of someone you know.
In my work as a therapist, I have taken many journeys with my
clients. Rather than tell stories of other peoples lives, I have
chosen to tell my own life as it is the one I know best.
Enjoy!
Marilyn
Chapter One: It's Good To Be Home
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ISBN-10: 0973412925
ISBN-13: 978-0973412925
352 pages - soft cover
$24.95
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Author: Marilyn Barnicke Belleghem M.Ed., is a Registered Marriage
and Family Therapist.
See more at www.mbcinc.ca
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